I spent a festive, fun filled weekend in San Francisco attending the BlogHerPro, Renegade Craft Fair, watching Santa Con, thrifting, fooding and relaxing all with a dear friend and her family- which is always more fun than a hotel! She’s the brains and heart behind LoveYou2.org which in light of current events is something the world could use a lot more of. Words of love and encouragement as you walk by or up the steps to home. I love this and the idea of spreading positive vibes in anyway, anyhow- random or deliberately. Love notes, available on etsy, an excellent way to get moving in the right, positive direction. Words of love and encouragement are always appreciated and remembered.
I love this, I saw it on Instagram, and seeing this view of the tragic event in Connecticut has given me some peace. But for those of us left behind on earth it’s hard to know with the complete randomness of shootings as they occur around the country, what to do or how to deal with your feelings. For sure, there’s no easy solution to the gun situation and folks on either side are hell bent on having it their way.
As a mother, I’ve come to the conclusion that we need to take action within our own families. A few ideas…
1. Take care of your little people as the grow, their healthy and happiness is your responsibility.
2. Spread the love and encouragement on thick, until it feels over the top and makes them roll their eyes.
3. Make certain you’re sincere when you verbalize love.
4. Give them your full attention- eye contact and often. Don’t expect them to put the game or phone down, look and listen to you if you don’t show them the same respect (put the phone down).
5. Really listen to what they tell you (or aren’t saying in their actions).
6. Keep your kids close, just like they say in the drug and alcohol free ads you hear and see on billboards, talk to your teens and encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings with you.
7. Get them help them if you sense there is a problem with their mental health.
8. Be a good example.
9. Give hugs and kisses, cuddle.
10. Get in the habit of family time- whatever works- dinner together, reading, watching a movie, games etc.
Today my eldest turns 16, she got her driver’s license at 8:01 am and drove off into the rising sun- to a worthy destination- to work at Park City Sailing Camp. It’s hard to believe how time passes so quickly, they grow up so fast- it’s so cliche and couldn’t be more true. It’s this little lady that I followed to Cambodia a few weeks ago to help with the humanitarian service trip she prepared a year for. Thanks for being such a great kid, good example and so much fun. Happy Birthday world traveler!
Rock Canyon, Provo Utah 2005
Paris, France 2007
One Mile Beach, New South Wales, Australia, January 2010
This note speaks for itself. It’s possibly my favorite note I’ve ever read (secretly, of course) from one of my kids. Q- once again reminding me in writing to take a chill pill, calm down, don’t freak out, regroup, take a timeout, read some parenting help books. Remember, sticks and stones… notes from my kids.
When it comes to the Tooth Fairy, some bit of correspondence must be included. Most of the time the kids want personal information like: what is your name? are you married? or how tall are you? This time F was going along with the rumor that a friend’s friend had gotten an RC car from the Tooth Fairy. Urban legend, my son. He did get three dollars though because it took that darn tooth fairy 3 night to pay up- sheesh! I mean what does a kid have to do to get some good service around here?
This is a self portrait of M (at age 6). She doesn’t have bangs, but as you can see- she really wants them really bad.
M is not shy about who she has a crush on. She let’s the whole world know, she loves to shout it out- literally. This was found in her backpack, apparently, she has a new muse and his name is Clay… working on getting his number. Kindergarten romance…